Why You Shouldn’t Allow Myers-Briggs To Dictate Who You Date
As an ENFP, INTJs are meant to be my ideal match. In fact, ENFP-INTJ relationships are theorized to not just be one another’s perfect fit, but the One True Pairing of the MBTI. They’re the psychological dream team – lofty idealism paired with intensive reasoning and follow-through. Together they can accomplish anything – and anything apparently translates to a lifelong relationship.
ENFPs and INTJs aren’t the only theoretically perfect pairing out there. INFJs are meant to be ideal for ENTPs. ESFPs are supposed to go batty for ISTJs. ISFJs are meant to find their superheroes in ESTPs and ENFJs are the theoretical soulmates for INFPs.
The definition of what makes up a ‘Perfect Match’ differs slightly depending on whom you’re talking to (or reading a book by) but most MBTI-enthusiasts will agree that at some point or another, they’ve allowed the MBTI to dictate their love life.
The MBTI is a wonderful tool. It can help us understand one another, strengthen our existing relationships and improve inter-type communication immensely. But it is not the be-all and end-all of compatibility. In fact, it may only be a small component of what makes a relationship work.
After six months of going on dates with introverted, intuitive, thinking judgers, I personally had to come to the disappointing conclusion that I just wasn’t that into any of them. It’s not that I’ve never been attracted to an INTJ – I quite vehemently have – but none of the particular men I met during that time period fit the bill. Continue Reading
